Today my little sister turns 10 years old. So, today on the blog to celebrate her birthday I wanted to share 10 things I’d tell my 10-year-old self if I could go back in time.
- You will be able to find clothes again
I was very tall for a 10-year-old and really thin. It was a struggle to find clothes that were fashionable, fit me well and were age appropriate. Thankfully, I’m now able to find clothes that I love and fit me well. I wish I could’ve assured my 10-year-old self that it was only temporary.
- Books are powerful, choose wisely.
I’ve always loved reading books. However, I wasn’t picking the best books to read at 10. I think it’s really important to read wholesome books as they can affect your character. I wish I could tell myself that you shouldn’t just choose popular books but good books.
- There are books about people like you out there.
Only very recently did I start to read books consciously by and about African-Americans and people of other minority groups. I read lots of books featuring white main characters and while there is nothing wrong with that, it’s so important to be able to find myself in books.
- You are beautiful from head-to-toe especially your hair.
Around this time, I began to be discontent with my appearance specifically my hair. I have a kinky and tightly coiled hair texture and I started to envy the images I saw of those with long, straight, light brown or blond hair. Everyone’s hair is beautiful no matter the length, shade or texture. So, I would remind my younger self how beautiful I am and was.
- It’s okay to drift away from your friends, the real ones will be there when you return.
I also began to feel like I was drifting apart from my friends. I wasn’t talking to them as much, and even when we hung out I felt distant. At the time, it seemed like the end of the world, but now I realize that I needed some space. And now, I feel closer to my friends than I ever was. I love them so much and they waited for me till I circled around back to them.
- The media is lying to you.
My life would have been so much easier if I’d realized this earlier. Every image of what beauty means, what it looks like to be cool, how you should act at a certain age, everything they tell you, is a lie. You can’t trust images, TV, the internet, even the newspaper. 10 year old Akilah, don’t believe what they tell you.
- Real friends like you for you.
I don’t have to act a certain way, dress a certain way, or do certain things to impress my friends. My real friends like me for who I really am.
- Being a teenager isn’t a magical solution
When I was 10, I thought being older would fix all my problems. But it didn’t I’m not perfect as Philippians 3: 12 says: “12 Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own.”
- There’s no such thing as normal.
The cool thing about being a teenager is that more and more of my friends and I are doing our own thing. I have different passions and interests than my friends do in some areas and we’re all cool. I used to be obsessed with being normal, liking what my friends liked or what the “cool people” like. But then I realized there’s no such thing as normal, we’re all crazy here.
10. You are capable of more than you can know.
At 10 I never could have even imagined accomplishing everything that I have in the last four years. I got through so many difficult times and stretched myself beyond my wildest dreams. God has worked through me so much, I never could have done any of these things in my own power and I can’t wait to see where he’ll take me next.
Anaya, I hope your year 10 is so much greater than mine was. I pray that you will achieve great things this year through God’s power. And that you will realize your worth is in him and therefore forego all the heartache and pain of discontentment. You are loved.